Nothing Can Separate Us: A Funeral Sermon On Romans 8:38-39
We come here today carrying something heavy. Grief is not a small thing, and no one in this room needs to pretend otherwise. There is a real and painful absence in your life right now. The person you loved is gone, and that loss is felt in ways that words can barely touch. It is right to grieve. It is honest to hurt. And it is good that we have gathered together rather than bearing this alone.
But we have also gathered around something else. We have gathered around a word from God, and that word refuses to leave us without hope. So before we leave this place, I want to read to you from the letter the apostle Paul wrote to the church in Rome, from the eighth chapter, beginning at verse thirty-one.
"What then are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He did not even spare his own Son but gave him up for us all. How will he not also with him grant us everything? Who can bring an accusation against God's elect? God is the one who justifies. Who is the one who condemns? Christ Jesus is the one who died, but even more, has been raised; he also is at the right hand of God and intercedes for us. Who can separate us from the love of Christ? Can affliction or distress or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: Because of you we are being put to death all day long; we are counted as sheep to be slaughtered. No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
That is the word of God. And I want to stay in that word with you for a few minutes.
The Question Paul Will Not Let Go
Paul has been building toward this passage for eight full chapters. He has talked about sin, about condemnation, about the Spirit of God living inside those who belong to Christ. He has talked about suffering and hope and the groaning of creation. And now he arrives at this moment, and he asks a series of questions. Not because he does not know the answers, but because he wants the answers to land in your chest like an anchor.
Who can be against us? Who can accuse us? Who can condemn us? Who can separate us from the love of Christ?
The questions pile up, and then Paul answers every single one of them with the same foundation: God is for us, and he proved it by giving his own Son.
That is where this passage begins, and we cannot skip past it. The love Paul is talking about is not a vague, sentimental feeling. It is a love that was demonstrated at the cross. God did not spare his own Son. He gave him up for us all. That is the measure of this love. And Paul's argument is simple and staggering at the same time: if God was willing to do the hardest thing, if he was willing to give his Son, then nothing else will cause him to let go of the people who belong to him.
When Death Feels Like The Final Word
Paul lists the things that might seem to threaten God's love. Affliction. Distress. Danger. The sword. And then, at the very end of the passage, he names death itself. Death is on the list. Paul does not pretend it is not real. He does not minimize it. He quotes a psalm that describes God's people as sheep counted for slaughter. He is honest about the darkness.
And then he says: even so, in all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
Not conquerors who avoided suffering. Not conquerors who were spared from loss. Conquerors in the middle of it, through Christ, because of love that does not let go.
This is what makes the Christian hope different from simple optimism. We are not standing here today and saying that death is not real, or that grief is a problem to be solved, or that everything is fine. Death is the last enemy. It is real. The empty chair is real. The silence in the house is real. But the Christian gospel says that death does not have the final word. Jesus Christ died, and he was raised, and he is right now at the right hand of God interceding for his people. That is what Paul says. The one who died is the one who was raised. And because he was raised, death has been defeated from the inside.
What This Passage Offers To Those Who Grieve
If you are here today and you belong to Christ, this passage is written for you. Paul is not speaking in the abstract. He is speaking to people who know what it is to suffer, to lose, to grieve. And he is telling you that nothing you are feeling right now, not the grief, not the confusion, not the exhaustion, none of it has the power to cut you off from the love of God in Christ Jesus your Lord.
That love held the person we remember today during their life on this earth. That love holds you now in your grief. And that love will hold you in every day that comes after this one.
If you are here today and you are not sure where you stand with God, I want to speak to you directly and honestly. This passage is an invitation as much as it is a declaration. Paul is describing a love that is available to anyone who comes to Christ in faith. The love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord is not a private possession for a select few. It is offered to every person who turns from their sin and trusts in Jesus, who died for sinners and rose from the dead. If you have never done that, today is a good day to begin. Not because grief should be used as pressure, but because the truth is always worth hearing, and the gospel is always good news.
A Word Before We Close
Paul ends this passage with a list that is meant to be exhaustive. Death. Life. Angels. Rulers. Things present. Things to come. Powers. Height. Depth. Any other created thing. He is sweeping the entire universe with his arm and saying: there is nothing in all of it that can separate you from the love of God in Christ Jesus your Lord.
That is the word I want to leave with you today. Not that grief is easy. Not that loss does not hurt. But that the love of God is stronger than death, stronger than grief, stronger than every force that threatens to undo us. It held in the darkness of the tomb on Good Friday. It broke open on Easter morning. And it holds still, today, in this room, over every person here who has placed their trust in the risen Christ.
We grieve. But we do not grieve as those who have no hope. Because the one who loved us has not let go. And he never will.
Sources Consulted
Schreiner, Thomas R. Romans. Baker Exegetical Commentary on the New Testament. Baker Academic, 1998.
Moo, Douglas J. The Letter to the Romans. New International Commentary on the New Testament. Eerdmans, 2018.
Cranfield, C. E. B. A Critical and Exegetical Commentary on the Epistle to the Romans. International Critical Commentary. T and T Clark, 1975.
Stott, John R. W. The Message of Romans. The Bible Speaks Today. InterVarsity Press, 1994.
Spurgeon, Charles H. The Treasury of David. Passmore and Alabaster, 1869. Consulted for Psalm 44 background referenced in Romans 8:36.
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